Adoption Grief: A Loss Worse Than Death?

April 16, 2020
the weight of loss

photo by Jensen Twite, used with permission

I stumbled upon a forum discussing birth mother grief and loss from adoption, and as we are approaching Mother’s Day and Birth Mother’s Day I have found myself perhaps unconsciously or consciously asking myself the same question the forum posed: is the grief and loss from choosing to place your child for adoption worse than the grief experienced through death? I feel I may be at a place in my life where I am getting an answer to this question. Read the rest of this entry »


Reunited! And it feels so… ??

March 16, 2017

Ah, adoption reunion – it’s the stuff of movies, novels, and reality TV – and it is a big deal. I was in tears at the end of the movie Tangled when Rapunzel was reunited with her biological parents. For me, that was where the movie should have begun, not ended. And although I have not yet seen the movie Lion, I have heard that it is honest and responsible in its portrayal of the emotions involved in adoption search and reunion. But it too, ends at reunion. What happens next?! Read the rest of this entry »


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