There is a new method in which adoptees are finding birth family, and all you need to do is spit! I just heard that My Heritage is giving away 15,000 free DNA test kits to adoptees and birth family members who are searching. To qualify for a chance at a free test, you have to apply before April 30th, 2018 at https://www.dnaquest.org, otherwise, the cost of these mail-order DNA tests ranges from $69 – $200. Read the rest of this entry »
You just found out you’re pregnant, and it wasn’t something you were planning – so many thoughts, emotions, and decisions to make. Who do you turn to? And where do you start? You’ve heard that LSS does adoptions (and has for nearly a century in South Dakota), but you’re not sure adoption is what you want to do. So why should you contact LSS anyway? 1. LSS pregnancy counseling is FREE, 2. You don’t have to choose adoption, and 3. Outreach is available throughout South Dakota. Free sounds like a good place to start! Read the rest of this entry »
As I pondered writing a blog that could address both Adoption Awareness Month AND Thanksgiving, I wasn’t sure where to start, until I was talking to a friend about the latest episode of the TV series, This is Us, and she asked me, “How old were you when you were first told you were adopted?” Wow! First, the answer is that I don’t remember, I just always knew. Second, I am so very thankful that I don’t remember! Read the rest of this entry »
Are you interested in adoption or foster care? November is recognized as National Adoption Month, and local agencies are sponsoring an Adoption and Foster Care Awareness event on November 2, 2017, at the Rapid City Dahl Arts Center, located at 713 7th Street, Rapid City, South Dakota. Read the rest of this entry »
Here are a few common misconceptions on how open adoptions work.
- Open adoption is confusing to the child. This is false! Children growing up in open adoptions do understand the difference between parents and birth parents. In healthy open adoptions, both adoptive and birth parents help define their own roles and responsibilities.
- Open adoption is a form of co-parenting. This is false! Open adoption is not shared custody between adoptive and birth parents. Adoptive parents have full legal responsibilities over the child once the adoption is complete.
- All open adoptions eventually turn into closed adoptions at some point. This is false! As in any relationship, contact with one another can change as life events happen. It is important that the unique relationships formed through open adoption are recognized and honored. All relationships involve challenges at some point. The key to positive relationships is mutual understanding and respect. When children know their adoption story from the very beginning there is less chance for resentment about being adopted.
Adoptive and birth parents are supported through each stage of the adoption process at LSS. Birth parents receive free options counseling and decision making services. Adoptive parents are provided education to equip them for successful adoptions. For more information on how open adoption works, or for pregnancy counseling services, contact LSS at 605-221-2346, toll free at 888-201-5061, or http://www.LssSD.org.
-Submitted by Hayley Van Den Brink, Supervisor, Adoption Program
Every May LSS has an annual event to honor birth mothers. It provides them with an opportunity to visit with others who have traveled the same path in choosing to place their children for adoption. It serves as a support group as they struggle with grief and loss, but also allows them to celebrate their child. Read the rest of this entry »
Ah, adoption reunion – it’s the stuff of movies, novels, and reality TV – and it is a big deal. I was in tears at the end of the movie Tangled when Rapunzel was reunited with her biological parents. For me, that was where the movie should have begun, not ended. And although I have not yet seen the movie Lion, I have heard that it is honest and responsible in its portrayal of the emotions involved in adoption search and reunion. But it too, ends at reunion. What happens next?! Read the rest of this entry »
I was hooked on the new TV series This is Us from the first five minutes of the first episode. None of the previews gave me any idea that adoption would be a major theme in the series, and so now every episode has me on the edge of my couch. If you haven’t watched yet but are interested, this is your spoiler alert! You might want to watch first before you read the rest of this blog. Read the rest of this entry »
When we see someone struggling, our natural response is to try to help them. There is no moment more true to that than when we see someone we know or love facing an unplanned pregnancy. Whether it is your friend, sister, daughter, coworker, granddaughter or girlfriend, the first response is to offer them advice. The problem is, often they are inundated with several “helpers” who want to offer their advice, all with differing opinions. It’s very difficult to be struggling with a decision and have people all around you giving conflicting advice but not really providing any resources to follow through with that advice. “You’d be a great mom, I’ll help you!” while someone else says, “but what about college, you’ll never be able to go,” to “whatever you do, don’t just ‘give it up.’” The best advice you can truly give them is to refer them to an LSS Pregnancy Counselor, because everyone around them might have an opinion on what they should do, but a Pregnancy Counselor helps THEM decide what THEY should do. Read the rest of this entry »