Strengthening Your Adoptive Parenting Skills

March 17, 2021
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LSS adoptive families have historically been provided education, training, and support when they adopt. We believe in helping families to not only prepare to adopt a child but also to continue their education as they parent their child(ren). Our goal is that adoptive families are equipped with the skills and resources to help their child thrive. Seeking support and additional education after you adopt is not a sign of weakness. (See our previous blog about seeking support https://lsssdblog.wordpress.com/2020/09/16/its-ok-to-ask-for-help/.) Obtaining additional training and knowledge will help you help your child and is a sign of a strong parent. We would like to help spread the word about two upcoming education opportunities for adoptive families.

The 5th Annual Adoption Conference will be an online conference held on April 22, 2021. This year’s theme is “Race in Adoption Practice.” To learn more and to register, visit https://chssd.org/adoptconf. Another training opportunity is the “Hope for the Journey Conference.” This was formerly known as Empowered to Connect. This online conference will be held May 7, 2021, and will focus on TBRI (Trust Based Relational Intervention.) For more information and registration details, visit https://www.eventbrite.com/e/hope-for-the-journey-formerly-empower-to-connect-tickets-143792684791?utm-campaign=social%2Cemail&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-source=strongmail&utm-term=checkoutwidget.

For more information on LSS Adoption Services or LSS Pregnancy Counseling, please contact LSS at 605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061.

Submitted by Hayley VanDenBrink, LSS Adoption Program Supervisor

LSS Adoption & Pregnancy Counseling
621 E Presentation St |Sioux Falls SD 57104
605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061
www.LssSD.org
Strengthening Individuals, Families & Communities


What is Peace?

December 16, 2020

Merry Christmas from the LSS Adoption Program!  As we prepare our hearts and homes for Christmas this year, knowing things will look a little different because of the pandemic, we pray that you are filled with Peace this season. As prospective adoptive families wait to receive placement and birth families explore their options, we pray everyone will experience Peace. A few thoughts come to mind when we think of having Peace in the adoption process.

Pray – pray for families as they wait to be matched with a child, pray for birth families as they explore options for their child, pray that everyone has strength and open hearts

Excitement – adoption is exciting and adoptive families and birth families both experience levels of excitement in adoption, birth parents get excited to choose the adoptive family for their child, adoptive families are excited when they are chosen by birth parents

Acceptance – for birth parents making decisions for their baby’s future; that they are able to know they are making the best decision for themselves and their baby

Caring – in today’s adoptions, the majority involve some level of openness, birth parents and adoptive families develop strong caring relationships with one another

Evolve – each adoption is unique and the relationship between birth family, adoptive family, and child evolves as they get to know one another and as the child grows

We hope and pray that you and your loved ones will be able to experience Peace this season!

For more information on LSS Adoption Services or LSS Pregnancy Counseling, please contact LSS at 605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061.

Submitted by Hayley VanDenBrink, LSS Adoption Program Supervisor

LSS Adoption & Pregnancy Counseling
621 E Presentation St |Sioux Falls SD 57104
605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061
www.LssSD.org
Strengthening Individuals, Families & Communities


Did you know November is National Adoption Month?

November 16, 2020

The month of November is recognized as National Adoption Month. This year’s theme is “Engage Youth: Listen and Learn” and the goal is to raise awareness of children waiting to be adopted. This is an annual campaign sponsored by the Children’s Bureau of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services in partnership with the Child Welfare Information Gateway and AdoptUSKids. If you are considering adopting a child through domestic or international adoption, LSS is here to help and support you in your journey. LSS Adoption Services offers free informational packets and meetings for those interested in learning more about the adoption process, requirements, and the different options available in adopting a child.      

For more information on LSS Adoption Services or LSS Pregnancy Counseling, please contact LSS at 605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061.

Submitted by Hayley VanDenBrink, LSS Adoption Program Supervisor

LSS Adoption & Pregnancy Counseling
621 E Presentation St |Sioux Falls SD 57104
605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061
www.LssSD.org
Strengthening Individuals, Families & Communities


My Role As an LSS Pregnancy Counselor

October 16, 2020

I have had the privilege to work as the LSS Pregnancy Counselor in Sioux Falls since July 2020. I have learned so much over these few months. LSS Adoption and Pregnancy Counseling Services are unique, amazing, and consist of three main components:  Adoption Services, Post Legal Adoption Services and Pregnancy Counseling. In my role as a Pregnancy Counselor, I provide services to those facing an unplanned pregnancy. All birth parents receive free, non-judgmental options counseling and decision making services. I am fortunate enough to help clients work through the process of making the best plan for them and their child, which may be an adoption plan or a parenting plan.  Regardless of the plan that is chosen, I provide clients with emotional support for them and their support system, as well as providing clients with community resources to help their individual plan succeed. If an adoption plan is chosen, I assist in developing relationships between the birth parents and the adoptive family.  I can also assist the birth parents in developing a hospital plan, and I collaborate with the hospital staff so that the hospital stay is successful for all parties involved. I am blessed to work with brave and resilient clients who are making life changing decisions.  The need for Adoption and Birthparent services is where LSS started 100 years ago, and although services may look a little different now, we continue to provide these services across the entire state of South Dakota, thankfully even during the pandemic.

For more information on LSS Adoption Services or LSS Pregnancy Counseling, please contact LSS at 605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061.

Submitted by Jessica DeSchepper, LSS Pregnancy Counselor

LSS Adoption & Pregnancy Counseling
621 E Presentation St |Sioux Falls SD 57104
605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061
www.LssSD.org
Strengthening Individuals, Families & Communities


It’s OK to Ask for Help!

September 16, 2020

LSS Adoption Services provides counseling, support, and education to birth parents, adoptees, and adoptive parents before, during, and after an adoption. I recently visited with a teen adoptee and helped her obtain non-identifying information on her birth mother. Being a teen in today’s world is hard and having some basic information on her birth mother’s hobbies and interests is helping her in her own identity development. In some cases, therapy or counseling with a mental health therapist would be beneficial. LSS Behavioral Health Services offers a variety of services for individuals, families, couples, and groups. Seeking help for your adopted child, for yourself as an adoptive parent or birth parent is not a sign of weakness. Society may tell you otherwise but seeking help, resources, support, or counseling can be a sign of strength and courage. If you are seeking counseling or therapy, it is important to find a counselor or therapist who is knowledgeable about adoption and loss issues. Here are some tips on selecting a therapist that you may find helpful. https://creatingafamily.org/adoption-category/adoption-blog/a-guide-to-selecting-an-adoption-or-foster-therapist-2/. If you are in the Sioux Falls area, another source of support is a group that gathers monthly called “The Gathering Well.” This group is made up of adoptive and foster families who gather together to support, inspire, and learn from each other. For more information on their meetings, check out their Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/thegatheringwellsf/. Know that you are not alone and that help is available!

For more information on LSS Adoption Services or LSS Pregnancy Counseling, please contact LSS at 605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061.

Submitted by Hayley VanDenBrink, LSS Adoption Program Supervisor

LSS Adoption & Pregnancy Counseling
621 E Presentation St |Sioux Falls SD 57104
605-221-2346 or 888-201-5061
www.LssSD.org
Strengthening Individuals, Families & Communities

 


Adoption: Past, Present, and Future

June 16, 2020

As we look to the 100th year of the LSS Adoption program, I’m infantreflecting on all that I have learned from my time at LSS. A lot has changed since those first days of the “Lutheran Children’s Home Finding Society of South Dakota” in 1920. And in a way, things have almost come full circle. Read the rest of this entry »


Why Choose LSS When Considering Placing Your Baby for Adoption?

May 16, 2020

Facing an unplanned pregnancy is stressful enough. There are a lot of decisions to be made, so struggling to know who to trust shouldn’t be an additional stress. Often it feels so overwhelming that you just want someone else to take care of everything. Sometimes this opens up the opportunity for coercion to take place. Adoption is a permanent decision, so it is important that clients are fully informed, feel supported ownership of their decision, and feel protected from coercion or exploitation. Read the rest of this entry »


Adoption Grief: A Loss Worse Than Death?

April 16, 2020

the weight of loss

photo by Jensen Twite, used with permission

I stumbled upon a forum discussing birth mother grief and loss from adoption, and as we are approaching Mother’s Day and Birth Mother’s Day I have found myself perhaps unconsciously or consciously asking myself the same question the forum posed: is the grief and loss from choosing to place your child for adoption worse than the grief experienced through death? I feel I may be at a place in my life where I am getting an answer to this question. Read the rest of this entry »


The DNA Revolution – Part 3, Surprise!

September 16, 2019

I’ve been hearing from more and more adoptees telling me that they have found close relatives and even birth parents by using DNA services like Ancestry or 23andme. Read the rest of this entry »


A Reminder of the Best Advice

August 16, 2019

When we see someone struggling, our natural response is to try to help them. There is no moment more true to that than when we see someone we know or love facing an unplanned pregnancy. The first response is to offer them advice. The problem is, often they are inundated with several “helpers” who want to offer their advice, all with various opinions. It’s very difficult to be struggling with a decision and have people all around you giving conflicting advice but not really providing any resources to follow through with that advice. “You’d be a great mom, I’ll help you!” while someone else says, “but what about college, you’ll never be able to go,” or “whatever you do, don’t just ‘give it up.’” The best advice you can truly give them is to refer them to an LSS Pregnancy Counselor, because everyone around them might have an opinion on what they should do, but a Pregnancy Counselor helps THEM decide what THEY should do. Read the rest of this entry »


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