July 17, 2017
Here are a few common misconceptions on how open adoptions work.
- Open adoption is confusing to the child. This is false! Children growing up in open adoptions do understand the difference between parents and birth parents. In healthy open adoptions, both adoptive and birth parents help define their own roles and responsibilities.
- Open adoption is a form of co-parenting. This is false! Open adoption is not shared custody between adoptive and birth parents. Adoptive parents have full legal responsibilities over the child once the adoption is complete.
- All open adoptions eventually turn into closed adoptions at some point. This is false! As in any relationship, contact with one another can change as life events happen. It is important that the unique relationships formed through open adoption are recognized and honored. All relationships involve challenges at some point. The key to positive relationships is mutual understanding and respect. When children know their adoption story from the very beginning there is less chance for resentment about being adopted.
Adoptive and birth parents are supported through each stage of the adoption process at LSS. Birth parents receive free options counseling and decision making services. Adoptive parents are provided education to equip them for successful adoptions. For more information on how open adoption works, or for pregnancy counseling services, contact LSS at 605-221-2346, toll free at 888-201-5061, or http://www.LssSD.org.
-Submitted by Hayley Van Den Brink, Supervisor, Adoption Program
April 17, 2017
Every May LSS has an annual event to honor birth mothers. It provides them with an opportunity to visit with others who have traveled the same path in choosing to place their children for adoption. It serves as a support group as they struggle with grief and loss, but also allows them to celebrate their child. Read the rest of this entry »
March 16, 2017
Ah, adoption reunion – it’s the stuff of movies, novels, and reality TV – and it is a big deal. I was in tears at the end of the movie Tangled when Rapunzel was reunited with her biological parents. For me, that was where the movie should have begun, not ended. And although I have not yet seen the movie Lion, I have heard that it is honest and responsible in its portrayal of the emotions involved in adoption search and reunion. But it too, ends at reunion. What happens next?! Read the rest of this entry »
December 29, 2016
I was hooked on the new TV series This is Us from the first five minutes of the first episode. None of the previews gave me any idea that adoption would be a major theme in the series, and so now every episode has me on the edge of my couch. If you haven’t watched yet but are interested, this is your spoiler alert! You might want to watch first before you read the rest of this blog. Read the rest of this entry »
September 12, 2016
When we see someone struggling, our natural response is to try to help them. There is no moment more true to that than when we see someone we know or love facing an unplanned pregnancy. Whether it is your friend, sister, daughter, coworker, granddaughter or girlfriend, the first response is to offer them advice. The problem is, often they are inundated with several “helpers” who want to offer their advice, all with differing opinions. It’s very difficult to be struggling with a decision and have people all around you giving conflicting advice but not really providing any resources to follow through with that advice. “You’d be a great mom, I’ll help you!” while someone else says, “but what about college, you’ll never be able to go,” to “whatever you do, don’t just ‘give it up.’” The best advice you can truly give them is to refer them to an LSS Pregnancy Counselor, because everyone around them might have an opinion on what they should do, but a Pregnancy Counselor helps THEM decide what THEY should do. Read the rest of this entry »
August 22, 2016
Whenever the topic of adoption is brought to the attention of the media as it was last week during the Olympics, we feel it is a good time to talk about adoption terminology, and the negative effects using the wrong words can have on adoptees. Read the rest of this entry »